That'd be a rather loaded accusation. I have another analogy. I don't bring them up for reasons of whataboutery - I simply think of them as an effective modern Irish (or British!) means of demonstrating the fallacy in your point and simultaneously acknowledge both sides in the north can be as guilty of irrational hate as the other whilst doing so - but the Orange Order are institutionally anti-Catholic and Protestant-supremacist. That's not just me saying that; the likes of judges and respected academics have expressed so on the basis of the Order's explicitly sectarian philosophy. Loyalists shout in defence, "but that's our culture". It might be their culture, but it doesn't make the Order and their triumphalist provocations any less sectarian. Now, I'm not saying your elders intentionally wish hatred upon gay people, but whilst their disapproving views may be based upon traditions from yesteryear - indeed, they'll say, "but that's just my faith/tradition" - it doesn't make the opinions any less insulting to gay people. No matter what their generation or culture, if people haven't thought enough about the opinions they hold, so as to ensure they are circumspect and logical, it's not anyone else's fault.
But that's just inherently insulting and homophobic. Ignorant, lazy or casually-formed opinions (and we can all be guilty of them considering we're only human), rather than explicit expressions of hatred, can be just as offensive. For gay people (also of nature, like every other human being in existence), being gay feels like and is the most natural thing in the world.
Clearly that couldn't be true if they intend on voting 'no' with the aim of preventing a win for 'yes'.
They should research the crucial differences then before jumping to rash conclusions and making decisions of major significance to other people's lives and business on that basis.Like most people they don't see the difference between civil partnerships and marriage.
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