Don't be so patronising, this country owes me nothing and I am not looking for plaudits or gratitude, I signed up for it the day I married, you know the part, ".....in sickness and in health, for rich or for poor".
If you think sacrificing going out to work every day to look after a much loved and wanted partner is less manly than being a hod carrier then I'll swap you for a working week - My 24/7 for your 8/5.
I know I am richer in many more ways than financial. Before you say it, yes, it is my choice. I could always just absolve myself of the responsibility and get some one else to do it, be that privately or the state.