Horse,
My point exactly that once a ref is consistent in his decisions for both teams there would be far less complaining about refs. And in my opinion a ref who can talk to players and managers without handing out yellows usually tend to be the fellas who get less abuse and who teams like having reffing their games.
Don't get me wrong I'm no angel either when it comes to the refs but we have to try and make it easier for them too.