nigel-harps1954 - do you really not get the qualitative difference between shouting, for example, "phuq off you baldy b0llix" to a male referee in all-male environment, and shouting something at a woman about her being a woman in all-male environment? There is inevitably a sexual innuendo that the woman has to deal with that the baldy b0llix of a ref doesn't. Women simply shouldn't have to run this gauntlet at any time, and especially not in a large public gathering of men.
And you said, "it doesn't matter whether they SHOULD have to deal with it or not, because really they do have to deal with it, ...it's part of the job of being a referee". I completely disagree. That's a license to say anything to anybody. That's the excuse people used twenty years ago to excuse throwing bananas at black players, and that's why black players had to swallow their tongue and not complain in case they were thought of as "problems" that clubs needed to get rid of. It was only when enough people start saying, "that's not on" that people's behaviour started to change. And that's why its important that when the same thing happens to women that some of us say that it's wrong and should stop. Hopefully, in a few years time, the type of abuse women routinely get (and the quieter problem of general discrimination against women in football) will be regarded as out-of-bounds as racism generally is today.