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So in order to further explain my point, IMO for someone is to view a new human life in the terms described by Gav, is sad, as in sorrowful, as in a crying shame. Human life no matter how under developed is still a life and it is human, its human cells which are developing into a human baby.The whole process is simply fantastic and beautiful and to view it such a sterile matter (as described by gav) is sorrowful.Quote:
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Originally Posted by GavinZac
At 12 weeks the foetus is basically an amphibian with all the intelligence, emotions and nervous system of a newt. It may have a head, 2 legs and 2 arms but a baby it aint. If you're strongly against its termination you're either a vegan or you attach some symbolic/mystic/religious value that makes what is essentially a parasite hiding itself by secreting hormones through the placenta, a potential human, and you start going down the murky road of souls and sins and that malarky
What a sad world you live in.
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So if this was deemed as personel abuse then that is regrettable.
For the admin I pledge to no longer post on this topic as clearly its impossible to discuss with such eggshells being laid out.
Not really, just hold off on personal abuse is all. On a thread like this all it takes is for someone to say something like you did to start off a slanging match between both sides of the debate, and as we all know, there's no nastier subject to get caught up in in those terms than the pro-choice and life one.
Words presented incompletely in orginal post, sad was meant as a description of my view of his view of the world based on his post describing the unborn rather than personal abuse.
I will have to be more concise and detailed in future. The posted highlighting the perception of abuse by admin was adequate, the follow up infraction points was a bit nuclear but "if thems the rules so be it".
I must add that after my post Gav posted how he presents his material in certain language as it suits his style and this made sense given the way he was presenting up to then and if people notice after that post I didn't add anything else as I took his explanation at face value and demonstrated to me why he was using the terminology that he was (aimed at descriptions ather than aiming to insult) - if I had have known that earlier I probably wouldn't have perceived his view of the world as sad (as in sorrowful).
I wasn't angry, and I didn't report you. Thats why I apologised and explained myself rather than, as jebus or pete or others would attest to, giving an angry rebuke as usual.
As I said, I understand what you're saying. I think you've picked me up wrong; its fantastic and beautiful and a "miracle" - something extremely rare I mean, not divine - but we're talking about right and wrong, legal and illegal. Believe me, its not for the sake of learning that I read things about physics and genetics and natural history; its for the incredibility of it all. I think when people believe in creation or intellegent design or something, it takes away from the wonder that all of this happened just because it could, that life is brief and fleeting and yet eternal. Unfortunately, wonder and emotion cannot be well integrate into laws, into right and wrong. We can't use the fantastic nature of something as the base for its status. Everything in our world is wonderfully unlikely, "unnatural", bizarre. There's nothing like it for 50,000 light years, at least.
To me, if we're going to differentiate between things that can be killed and cannot be killed, the point is not whether it "is human"; cancer is human, murderers are human, but we kill them regardless. (I am not comparing these to a foetus by the way, I am contrasting them) We value humanity, not status as Homo Sapiens. While it is part of an amazing process, a foetus under 12 weeks has little or no humanity. It is a nub, extracting nutrients from a "host" and using them to build the rest of itself. At this point, it is exactly the same as 99% of mammal foetuses, which sounds a lot but then even when formed we are the same as 95% of mammals.
The differences, our humanity, comes in the form of thought, emotions, feelings, beliefs, love, hatred, experience and innocence. Despite what we may like to believe regarding the last piece, these cannot be attributed to a foetus. Some day we will have to make decisions about we value because the days when someone can create something which is not technically human, but has thoughts and feelings, are not far away. If we continue to treat the current freeze frame of DNA that represents what a human is, as something special, divine, sacred as we are trained to do by Judeo-Christian values, we will be denying our history (however remote) and denying our future (however close). The vast majority of philosophical and religious teachings in human history have instead focused on the incredible value that everything has; mother earth, Shinto "one-ness", Buddhist values, and so on. We have to realise that regardless of whether something may eventually be part of a human, we will all be part of the dirt very soon. So damn it, enjoy the years you have, and realise that what we should value is not ourselves, unquestioningly, but the thought, love, wonder, humanity that allow us to appreciate what we've got. That is why I do not think a foetus is the same as a baby. That it is not for a lack of wonder but for a difference in what I value. Ironically, while I am pro-choice, I don't think I'd ever want something of mine to be 'terminated'. I'm doing my best not to put myself in that situation, but for me the wonder of it all would be too much. I just don't think I should go tell other people that they should do the same.
This has been terribly long winded but I wanted you to understand that I do not live in a sad world. I did once, when I was wrapped up in myself and expectations and guilt and pressure. I escaped that life, with a few scars. Instead, I live in an incredible world, for the most part happily; and it is all the better for the contrast.
I didnt think you reported me. I think my last post prob went up when you were posting, as stated given you explanation of your language style etc I understand you stance all the better and would not have taken that previous position.
Plenty of points to go through (and holland have just gone 2 up). Cancer does not develop into a human child so I dont see why it is coamparable to discuss killing it to that of a child.
If I am reading you right, you are asking where does the humanity begin? So in the science theme, I think we all agree that a fertilsied egg and developing cells are alive, these cells are huamn cells dveloping into a child. So when should we consider that these cells become human - is that a fair summary of wher we are?
RVN was miles off, but what a goal the second was!It is part of a human; it is human cells of the species Homo Sapiens. It doesn't ever think or feel, though. The fact that it never will doesn't affect its status at this immediate point in time.Quote:
Cancer does not develop into a human child so I dont see why it is coamparable to discuss killing it to that of a child.
They could, some day, possibly become 'human' as we would put it, or have humanity. At that time, yes, they are foetuses of the species Homo Sapiens; but as I said, they dont think or feel, even if someday they might. Because they haven't and don't, I feel that termination, however distasteful, shouldn't be illegal; its probably relevant to mention I would feel the same about allowing vegetative/brain dead patients to pass on.Quote:
If I am reading you right, you are asking where does the humanity begin? So in the science theme, I think we all agree that a fertilsied egg and developing cells are alive, these cells are huamn cells dveloping into a child. So when should we consider that these cells become human - is that a fair summary of wher we are?
Indeed, the case that suicidal patients often make is that they can no longer think or feel anything except pain (of course it is our job to reverse that if it is possible - both the pain, and the desire to end it - I have worked with suicidal and depressed people, but thats not what I'm really referring to here; I'm sure you've probably seen or imagined a situation where a cancer patient or someone asks another to kill them or allow them to die, that is what I mean physical, irreversible pain) which throws up a whole other set of questions that none of us ever want to answer, and I don't think I could.
If I follow some of the logic here, then it's ok to abort a foetus because it isnt a paid up, contributing memmber of the human race with thoughts, feelings, opinions, likes, dislikes, skills and abilities, then it's ok to abort. and yes, gavinzac has made the point hat he feels the same about brain dead/vegetative state people. This is actually quite disturbing logic. If taken to its logical conclusion, what's to stop us instituting euthanasia for the brain dead, or the terminally ill (and yes, I know GavinZac never even hinted at this), but this logic has been followed before. After the terminally ill, how about the 'mentally impaired'. Its interesting to note the differing views held on the point of life commencing - some at conception, some upon birth. catholic dogma aside, i dont think you can actually say when a foetuses thought processes actually begin, and even then (and post birth) they are still fairly rudimentary. Inability to focus, little or no hand eye coordination, lack of control of bodily functions. I dont personally believe its ok to say 'right, you aren't alive until 24 weeks'. and yes, i know studies have been done that provide cumulative evidence, but its 100% right 100% of the time. If there is even the possibility of 1 early developed foetus with it's rudimentary thought processes surviving at say, 20 weeks, then its better to reduce the cut off date for all those other undeveloped potentialities than murder one person.
It can be dressed up in all the bland legal jargon in the world, but that simply hides the cold hard clinical facts. for example, a mother is mother whether the individual in question wants to be; that however doesnt not remove the option of putting the child up for adoption, etc. to describe the unborn foetus as an amphibian or amphibian like creature is, in my opinion, an attempt to devalue even its potential worth or value. 'ach, sure its not a human yet, its alright to get rid of it'.
personally i think the intorduction of abortion into any country's legal system is the first step on a long road that i for one wouldnt want to travel down. i believe that the logic of the decision can lead to places that will eventually twist our concept of morality out of recognition.
I've been reading this Thread since it's inception and have been reluctant to post, however if I was to post I would have said pretty much exactly what ShantyKelly has said above. I would like to add that the Sterile language used by some posters on here is a little unsettling to say the least, I think the attitude to abortion from some sections of society is a sad indictment of the value that we put on human life today.from personal experience, My partner miscarried at 11 weeks and still to this day considers the mis-carraige a lost child, (even having the name we had chosen Tatooed on her back) Whilst I have to admit I was against her getting the tatoo as I thought it a little extreme I have seen how it was part of the grieving process and has helped her, so I'd like gavinzac to tell her that what she lost was an amphibious Parasite and see what her reaction would be
That's your opinion, but why would you think you have the right to force your beliefs on someone else? No one's forcing a woman to terminate, it's their choice based on their belief. If you believe it's a life from conception, don't have an abortion, if you believe it's only a life when it can realistically survive outside the womb (which is what UK law is based on), then you can make the decision to have a termination. I don't believe it's ever an easy decision for a woman to make.
What if the baby has a low chance of survival to term or a matter of hours after birth? Is it more humane to make a woman carry to term, to have a still birth, to have everyone congratulating her and asking "when's it due" for months knowing it's not going to survive? Would people rather put the mother through that mental torture rather than allow a termination?
Euthanasia is a different debate, but I'd suggest we'd probably have the same pro choice, pro life split judging on postings above.
Exactly, the whole pro-choice, pro-life debate always seems to be taking away from the simple question of if you think it's right to force a person to do something they don't want to do. Whether you think the foetus is a baby or not, I don't believe in making someone go through with something they don't want to. As for the adoption issue, I still don't think it's right to make a female carry a child for 9 months, put that strain on her body and then have to go through the torment of giving it up. Sometimes I think pro-lifers think that all women who have abortions do so on a spur of the minute decision and they then go back to a care free life, where as in reality it's not.
As people prob have guess I am firmly in the shantykelly camp.
Given the level of abortions it is clear that most would statistically result in a healthy born baby if left to go full term. Of course there are difficult cases but the majority are lifestyle choices given the numbers. Fact is that the UK would have millions more citizens today if there was no abortion (I saw the figure recently but would have to look it up again but a serious number of abortions since the 60's) - wasn't really a Prochoice reality for those people.
So your point is why should prolife impose their belief that a mother cannot abort if she so wishes (correct me if I am wrong).
Lets take that a step further, what gives you (or anyone) the right to impose your belief that a mother with a born 1 year old cannot kill the child as a lifestyle choice, as she is finding it to difficult?
I would argue the torment of having an abortion could often out weight the torment of giving your child up for adoption, at least with adoption you can change your mind later.
And that this is more than just 1 woman’s choice when there are 2 and depending on how you view the fetus maybe 3 people involved. Its also the fathers child and to remove him for having any say in the matter is unsettling to me.
I think with most right minded people on the "pro life/anti abortion" side understand that abortion in extreme circumstances like this is ok. I would also include if the birth would put the mothers life at risk and also if the mother was a victim of rape or was a child herself.
Spot on. I know a couple of lad's who's girlfriends have had abortions and didn't even tell the father until after it had been done
That would absolutely wreck my head if it happened to me
I agree with this 100% but it does raise the question of what constitutes putting the mothers life at risk ie. (if theres a 2% chance that the mother would die due to complications is that enough), it leads to very murky waters if you were to try and define what constitutes "a Clear and Present Danger" to the mother. in the case of Rape and or Incest then I think abortions should be legalised but discouraged and an excellent system of councilling etc set up to help a woman who decides to keep a child despite being raped by the childs "Father"
As unsettling as carrying a child you don't want for 9 months, then having to give birth to a child you don't want, then having to raise a child you don't want, all because some bloke is unsettled at the thought of a woman having some control over her body?
Imagine having to look after a kid you didn't want witha girl you dind't even like anymore? headrecking or wha?Quote:
Originally Posted by Block G Raptor
by implication you'd encourage a woman who'd been impregnated while being raped by her own father to have his son/grandson. See we can all make illogical jumpsQuote:
in the case of Rape and or Incest then I think abortions should be legalised but discouraged and an excellent system of councilling etc set up to help a woman who decides to keep a child despite being raped by the childs "Father"
This is where I think our personal freedoms have to be curtailed. my right to choose versus some one else's right to live? ultimately, we live in a civilised society, and must bear repsonsibility for our actions and choices and how they impact on others. this is where the view on 'when does life start' become all important. if you don't consider a foetus a human being in total, only in potential, then this choice will always be relatively easy for you if faced with this situation.
secondly, in my view if you have unprotected sex and the girl becomes pregnant, it doesnt really matter if you want the child or not. this is where you personally have to face up to the consequences of your actions, something that isnt happening very much in modern ireland, and deal with it. preferably not via the easy approach of getting an abortion. to me, all disagreements about the act of abortion aside, that is taking the cowards route out of a problem that you and the other person involved got yourselves into to. you made the decision to have unprotected sex, you have to face the consequences. as we say in derry, take your oil.
1. she doesnt have to raise the child she doesnt want
2.do you think giving birth to a "child/fetous" at 6 months is all that different from giving birth to one at 9 months if so you should look into what actually happens its still pretty hard on the woman at any stage.
Its nothing to do with controll over a womans body im all for people doing what they like to themselves as long as it doesnt affect other people. As soon as you involve others then your rights are restricted this applies to Men and Women.With rights come responsibilities.
To opt me out of this discussion I'll say that I'm pro-choice, for the pure and simple reason that I don't think it's anyone's right to impose their will on someone else. Pro-lifers may think she's doing that to the aborted foetus, but I don't count that as a living being until it is able to live independently of it's host/mother/whatever. I think the 24 week rule should be brought down to 22 weeks with a view to bringing it down to 20 weeks pending more research, but thats about as low as I'd drop it.
As for abortion in Ireland, I really don't see the reasoning behind forcing women and sometimes girls, to travel to a different country to have a termination. The states main concern should be the mental and physical well being of it's citizens, and on that count a doctor should at least be able to look over a female before and after she has had the termination, and ideally she shouldn't be forced to leave the country at all
Sometimes abortion is put forward, even taken for granted, as a 'solution' to the most difficult situations. But this approach ignores the fact that it involves the taking of the unborn life and the exposure of the women to emotional hurt and possible psychological harm. The reality is that our willingness to offer social support is the single most important factor influencing a better psychological outcome for women in crisis pregnancy.
A study by Sandra Mahkorn Pregnancy and Sexual Assault, showed that there is a better social and personal outcome for women who chose to continue a pregnancy, despite harrowing initial circumstances. Two recent Finnish studies show a better outcome for women who continue their pregnancy as compared with women who opted for abortion.
The reality is that abortion means social exclusion rather than real personal support for women facing unexpected pregnancy. It allows society to abdicate from its responsibility towards them.
There are many examples of women joining the pro-life movement offering contrasting testimonies to those of the pro-abortion lobby - some representing women hurt by abortion - others include people like Pam Stenzel (lecturer on teen pregnancy USA ) who was herself conceived as a result of rape.
We must recognise, however, that there are immensely difficult and agonising situations which test our true compassion and solidarity as a society. If what seems impossible initially has a better long-term outcome for both the woman and her unborn baby, we owe it to them to have supports in place to cope with these situations. Abortion is often the easy solution for everybody except the woman and her unborn child.
Thats the most simplistic argument I've ever read on this forum.Quote:
secondly, in my view if you have unprotected sex and the girl becomes pregnant, it doesnt really matter if you want the child or not. this is where you personally have to face up to the consequences of your actions, something that isnt happening very much in modern ireland, and deal with it. preferably not via the easy approach of getting an abortion. to me, all disagreements about the act of abortion aside, that is taking the cowards route out of a problem that you and the other person involved got yourselves into to. you made the decision to have unprotected sex, you have to face the consequences. as we say in derry, take your oil.
Are you saying that it'd be OK to have an abortion if the man was wearing a condom and it slipped off or broke. You do realise that there isn't a single method of cntraception that is 100% fool proof don't you? if you really think that abortion is the easy answer, you obviously have not met anybody who's had to consider that as an option. Its a horrible process for any strong couple to go through, never mind some 16 year old girl who got drunk. Nobody, and I'll repeat for emphasis, NOBODY who decides to have an abortion does so on the basis thats its the easy option. They do so on the basis that at that monent and time they're not ready to look after a child.
Your language reads that you want to punish people for having unprotected sex. If you see a child as a punishment, then your opinion on children means nothing to me
So the other two points don't matter :rolleyes:Quote:
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2.do you think giving birth to a "child/fetous" at 6 months is all that different from giving birth to one at 9 months if so you should look into what actually happens its still pretty hard on the woman at any stage.
Agreed. But if he wants her to have the baby, and she's adament that she's having the abortion, I'd side with her every single time. If you side with him, good luck forcing her to have the baby. Lets see how that works outQuote:
Its nothing to do with controll over a womans body im all for people doing what they like to themselves as long as it doesnt affect other people. As soon as you involve others then your rights are restricted this applies to Men and Women
I know you are otping out but I need to reply to this - this logic means you have no problem with people doing what they want, so I can kill you if I want, I can turn up and kill you and eat you because I want to (in theory :) ) and you would oppose anyone who opposes my will to do so. You see its a bit of an attempted washing of the hands answer that does not hold water as it is an illogical position to take in a functioning society.
Socal exclusion of society as it gives it a way of washing it hands of supporting the mother through a difficult pregnacy. Not that the mother is social excluded after an abortion. On reading can see how yo may have taken it up as such - I hope I have clarified it.
PS Clam down.
Hard to debate with people who try and turn words to their advantage when they know thats not what was meant. Anyway to play your game then read my sentence again and ask if murdering me would be you imposing your will on me? So logically I'm against you doing that. Final word cause that's a nonsense point you just made in a thread that has been surprisingly mature
PS cut out the ridiculous internet tactics of trying to make someone something you want them to be, i.e. in a rage and illogical
I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship, I can't stand her mother and we've been apart for about three years, I live for the weekend when I get to spend time with my Daughter and would not change a single thing about my past or the relationship with her mother, I wouldn't give up my daughter for anything so no having a kid with someone you don't exactly like anymore is not at all headwrecking for me and is probably the single best thing that has ever happened to me, whats more her mother would say exactly the same thing we can't stand the sight of each other now but both of us adore our daughter
How is bringing an unwanted child into the world a better solution? How can a child develop if it is not loved? Surely you can't be saying that "ah sure she'll love it hen it comes along"? You can't be seriously generalising that much?
perhaps because people like yourself attach such a stigma to the act of abortion. perhaps if you embraced it as a viable option, these women would not feel so much social exclusion. The fact that you point out that coupless and single women have abortions despite feeling such exclusion should indicate that they have not taken this decision as the easy way out.Quote:
The reality is that abortion means social exclusion rather than real personal support for women facing unexpected pregnancy.
I agree 100%. What you don't point out is that abortion is sometimes the best option for all concernedQuote:
We must recognise, however, that there are immensely difficult and agonising situations which test our true compassion and solidarity as a society. If what seems impossible initially has a better long-term outcome for both the woman and her unborn baby, we owe it to them to have supports in place to cope with these situations.
Abortion is never easy on anybody. As you say, its not easy on women, and some still choose to proceed. Why do you think they do this? They know its not easy, they know the implications, they know how some people will treat them. Yet some still go through with it. Unless you'r trying to saying that everybody who has an abortion does so on a whim? But you know thats ridiculous...Quote:
Abortion is often the easy solution for everybody except the woman and her unborn child.
Good for you. but that wasn't the point I made. I made the point that some couples don't want children. Remember we're talking about a tiny, tiny minority of pregnancies here. In the vast majority of cases, the child will be born, and in the vast majority of those cases, the child will be loved by both parents.
However its not always that way, and rather than think of it from your perspective, why not let people decide based on their own circumstances
Actually I feel from the tone of the post that you were becoming heated.
In fact it is you trying to discredit my point, I was making the point that society always has to impose its will on others as their will, as there will be alway people with differing positions to society and society has to impose its will for the greaer good of its specific value system. (and that is the key of this debate - what value does society give the unborn human)
Dodge
I have been told that this debate should remain calm and rationale so stating the following "because people like yourself attach such a stigma to the act of abortion" is uncalled for personalisation. Feels like a case that if you dont like the message, so shoot the messanger.
Now onto your point: How is bringing an unwanted child into the world a better solution? How can a child develop if it is not loved? Surely you can't be saying that "ah sure she'll love it hen it comes along"? You can't be seriously generalising that much?
So does that also mean if the child is born and the mother decides she doesn't want it then it should be terminated? As you indicate that its is hampered as it will not be loved (assume you mean by the mother/parents) so it is better dead?
I would have thought that adoption was an option and I find your view strange to say the least. I also wold have thought that the resulting child/person would he seen life as a better option.
Anyhow, good debate and always a polarisng debate and I doubt anyone on either side have moved. I need to log off. Cheerio.
Im calling it a day on this one too as its getting into a pro/anti abortion thread rather than a 24 week one. All ill say is 24 weeks is too long way too long.
I dont want kids now thats why i use condoms and the missus is on the pill if on the freak tiny tiny chance both of those dont work (in the case of a slip or split the morning after pill would be the next option )if after all that she still got pregnant then id step up and take care of the baby if she didnt want to raise it id would agree to raise it on my own, if she still went against all my wishes and did have an abortion it would be a deal breaker.
I think thats a pretty reasonable attitude to have.
It all boils down to you are better off just having a w**k.
I'd imagine you haven't read all my posts, I'm not going through why I use scientific language in this topic again.I'm sorry for your loss, but:Quote:
from personal experience, My partner miscarried at 11 weeks and still to this day considers the mis-carraige a lost child, (even having the name we had chosen Tatooed on her back) Whilst I have to admit I was against her getting the tatoo as I thought it a little extreme I have seen how it was part of the grieving process and has helped her, so I'd like gavinzac to tell her that what she lost was an amphibious Parasite and see what her reaction would be
Firstly, we all have stories like that, 2 women in my life have miscarried. If we are to allow emotions to dictate laws then they would be very different. Your situation is different from the next, and that from the next.
Secondly, what you were mourning was the loss of a potential child. Potential being the operative word; This isn't an attempt to trivialise your experience, but the fact of the matter is that some other people would be relieved to no longer carry a potential child at 11 weeks. The difference is purely personal and that is why we can't just legislate based on your experience. As jebus pointed out, at the heart of this debate is not whether we believe abortion is wrong or right, but whether it is right for me to tell you that it is or is not in your situation, or vice versa*.
edit: *of course, that isn't actually true; the topic is whether 24 weeks is too old; if we toss out the abortion right/wrong, legal/illegal debate and concentrate on the limit that it should be if it is to be legal, the debate would be much shorter - basically, a few links to scientific studies and declarations of agreement or disagreement. That is where my much maligned "amphibian" remark comes in; at an early duration, the foetus is unrecognisable as human and virtually indistinguishable from any other tetrapod foetus.
Clearly not them all, but the ones to allow society function like the following:
Murder is wrong
Incest in wrong
Child abuse is wrong
are these good enough examples
If you beleive that society doesn't need some set of rules then you an interesting character. Now some people will disagree with these rules and society needs to impose its will to allow it to function. Don't see the difficulty in understanding this point but again maybe ts just another attmept to discredit the messanger.
And if abortion were legal, that would be one rule to serve society. Just like now, some would disagree with it, but society would still function.
People who didnt want to have abortions wouldn't have them, and people who did wouldn't have to go abroad to get them.
Don't see the difficulty in understanding this point.
Excellent examples. You think incest is bad but would allow a father be rewarded with a new child (and I think a child is a reward and a gift)
You're against child abuse but would force a women to bringa child into an abusive situation
You see my point? Nothing is cut and dried.